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[grooviechickie]

What questions do you have, Sophie?

[grooviechickie]

She'd better hurry, I might run out of niceness. 

[Keridwen]

Freddo, why is your happiness and future tied up in finding The One? It's like you're waiting to live your life or something.

I say go out and live your life now, before it passes you by. Don't rely on someone else to make you happy or make your life "complete". That bullshit is the stuff of love songs, fairy tales and our fucked-up society telling us that not being part of a couple is somehow bad for us.

Hear hear. It is so ingrained into our society that we are merely a 'HALF' of something bigger/better. It is seen as strange and weird when people are single for long amounts of time, or aren't interested in such pursuits. This should be merely one aspect of our lives! Careers, hobbies, other things which are fun... why must we so tie ourselves up with other people? And become so hurt by dealings with other people? We're fucked, we are.

Ok, sure, it's an evolutionary imperative that we must reproduce. But I am willing to claim we've almost run this dry. Countless members of the human species can't or won't have children. So why don't they shrivel up and die? Why doesn't evolution kill them off immediatley? However, maybe this is an evolutionary masterstroke in itself. We are on the top of the food chain, therefore we have it extremely easy as far as reproduction/numbers go. If it was continually evolutionarily built within us that we must 'make babies', we'd all be killed by sheer numbers. Thoughts?

[Bookworm.]

Thoughts?

I think that you have thought about this too much, but I suppose that it has become ingraned in our nature to continually seek out relationships to search for that perfect person. Is this neccesairily a bad thing? If it is to the detrement of the rest of your life then maybe. They are my thoughts on this issue.

But now for my wish.

I want someone decent to take to my formal at the end of the year.

[blue]

The good ones are worth waiting for Freddo 

I'd go into more detail but now I have to go out... so I wish my internet had started working a little earlier, then I wouldn't have spent ages messing about with the computer doing boring stuff instead of being on here.

*Waves to O_o in case they are reading this*

[Keridwen]

I think that you have thought about this too much.

On the contrary, one can never think about anything too much, if they deem it worthy to be thought about at any length in the first place.

[:-) Fred]

Well New Years was good, lovely lady, mucho fun  sleep by7am  hope to see her again  but am  not desperate.  The whole needing another half thing  is not the way it feels to me. I just enjoy having someone to share moments with. Things always seem more real , more memorable when you share them with someone.

I like to connect physically and mentally so I need more than I can get from male friends or family ( I am a sexy guy I was informed this morning) So I will continue to chase ladies until i catch or am caught by the right one.

SG you made a good point and I was a bit bolder than usual last night and it paid off. Thanks mate

[Nev Bartos]

I just hope I don't get used for sex and discarded (again)

Cheer up emo kid.  It could be a lot worse.

[Pinball Neil]

I wish I were a wiggly worm

[Thaluikhain]

I wish I was a fuzzy wuzzy fox
I wish I waaaaaaas a fuzzy wuzzy fox
If I were a fuzzy fox, I'd never have to change my socks
I wish I was a fuzzy wuzzy fox


Slaughter Trail wasn't all that bad a movie.

[Erubadhriel]

I wish this fucking headache would go away

[.]

Hear hear. It is so ingrained into our society that we are merely a 'HALF' of something bigger/better. It is seen as strange and weird when people are single for long amounts of time, or aren't interested in such pursuits. This should be merely one aspect of our lives! Careers, hobbies, other things which are fun... why must we so tie ourselves up with other people? And become so hurt by dealings with other people? We're fucked, we are.
Ok, sure, it's an evolutionary imperative that we must reproduce. But I am willing to claim we've almost run this dry. Countless members of the human species can't or won't have children. So why don't they shrivel up and die? Why doesn't evolution kill them off immediatley? However, maybe this is an evolutionary masterstroke in itself. We are on the top of the food chain, therefore we have it extremely easy as far as reproduction/numbers go. If it was continually evolutionarily built within us that we must 'make babies', we'd all be killed by sheer numbers. Thoughts?

See, I spent most of my teens and 20s being a fiercesome chick warrior with a 'fuck you, breeders' attitude, I've always been against the whole spitting-out-kids thing (it just seems selfish and futile) and I've never bought into the whole 'here's my other half' bullshit.

But...

I don't know if it's nesting urges, or the fact that all my partying mates are now married and spawning and there's no one left to get on the piss with, but I've found the urge to pair up growing stronger over the years, to the point where I don't even rule out the concept of spitting one out eventually.

Work seems to become meaningless - you're doing all this crap working for 'the man' and dedicating your life to other people who don't give a shit...it becomes monotonous and draining. Hobbies are important and enjoyable but they don't provide the emotional nourishment that you get from friends and family.

And as Freddo said, there's something extra special about getting to know someone intimately...it provides a different kind of emotional nourishment from regular friends and family.

I do agree with the thrust of your post though - by and large people are just programmed to hitch and spawn with no real thought behind it and have a willingness to sacrifice their individuality in pursuit of the 'two becoming one' bullshit.

[Keridwen]

See, I spent most of my teens and 20s being a fiercesome chick warrior with a 'fuck you, breeders' attitude, I've always been against the whole spitting-out-kids thing (it just seems selfish and futile) and I've never bought into the whole 'here's my other half' bullshit.

A completely accurate description of my sentiments!

But...

I don't know if it's nesting urges, or the fact that all my partying mates are now married and spawning and there's no one left to get on the piss with, but I've found the urge to pair up growing stronger over the years, to the point where I don't even rule out the concept of spitting one out eventually.

That's a rather big leap. But I've seen it, time and time again. People have fun with their friends, and if you don't see them too often, you continue to have fun with them. When you become involved with just one person, the novelty, to put it bluntly, surely wears off. People fight bitterly, the people you love are the ones who can cut you the deepest. People who live together grow to absolutely despise each other, in a way regular friends can't. Why chuck yourself out on the chopping block for this to happen? There's always other loner mates out there to 'get on the piss with'.

Or in my case, my loner self, a shelf full of books along with a pen (or keyboard) and piece of paper (or blank word document) to provide such "nourishment". Self sufficiency is the key!

[.]

Keridwen : it wears thin after a while. trust me 

But see...I think the idea is to partner up with someone who's not always going to be in your back pocket. Someone who's happy to be playing World of Warcraft while you post on the Chaser Forum  And who is quite happy to continue going out with mutual mates and is happy for each of you to have 'me time' with your own friends (admittedly, this must get pretty difficult to maintain once kids turn up). But I dunno...there's nothing quite like spending the weekend in bed with someone canoodling and solving all the world's problems (admittedly, another thing that would be difficult to maintain once kids show up ).

Anyway...I'm 31 now and I'm down to one "loner mate". The others are all hitched/breeders or in long term relationships, and can only come out with us sporadically when they're let off the leash. And as much as you try and maintain the friendships with those people, you tend to drift apart because there's only so many "Here's 45 pics of my 3-year-old playing in his wading pool" moments that you can politely engage in.

So yeah...I think your self-sufficiency philosophy is good (especially at your age)...but just don't shut yourself off to the possibilities of someone coming along to mess it up a bit

Actually that reminds me of something...I bought one of those trashy Cosmo or Cleo mags the other week, just to see what kind of bullshit plastic chicks are imbibing these days, and read some article about how to embrace single life etc. The bird writing it wrote about how she found herself single at 25 and realised it was the first time since she'd started dating that she'd been single...and didn't know what to do with herself. The article then wanked on about all the strategies she used to "cope" with this situation (like, going to movies by herself...OHMIGOD!) and it was really a sad, pathetic read written by some vacuous bint with more filling in her twat than her head. Of course, the article had a happy ending - her confident, independent self delivered her into the hands of her latest boyfriend *rolls eyes*.

[Pinball Neil]

Actually that reminds me of something...I bought one of those trashy Cosmo or Cleo mags the other week, just to see what kind of bullshit plastic chicks are imbibing these days, and read some article about how to embrace single life etc. The bird writing it wrote about how she found herself single at 25 and realised it was the first time since she'd started dating that she'd been single...and didn't know what to do with herself. The article then wanked on about all the strategies she used to "cope" with this situation (like, going to movies by herself...OHMIGOD!) and it was really a sad, pathetic read written by some vacuous bint with more filling in her twat than her head. Of course, the article had a happy ending - her confident, independent self delivered her into the hands of her latest boyfriend *rolls eyes*.

Dom is quite a versatile writer I find.